One Conversation Away: When you don’t think you tick all the boxes… and almost say “not now”

Thereโ€™s a moment in my career I still think about often. Because it almost didnโ€™t happen.

In 2007, I was a Principal at EY. Iโ€™d been with the firm for 13 years. I loved my work. I was doing well.

And while partnership was always something Iโ€™d been aiming for, it felt like something for later. Something I wasnโ€™t quite ready for.

One day, a senior female partner, who I reported to at the time, called me into her office and asked me to sit down with her.

She said: โ€œI think itโ€™s time to put you into the partner promotion process. I think youโ€™re ready.โ€

I was flattered. And immediatelyโ€ฆ terrified.

Because while I knew I was good at my job โ€“ the feedback, the clients, the results all said that โ€“ I couldnโ€™t shake the feeling:

โ€œI havenโ€™t done enough yet.โ€

So I said what many of us say in that moment:

โ€œOh that is so nice you think that โ€“ Iโ€™m flattered, really I am. But Iโ€™m not ready. There are still so many things I need to be better at.โ€

She didnโ€™t let that slide.

She said:

โ€œIf there are 10 things on the list, youโ€™re ticking at least 8 of them โ€“ easily.โ€

And then she added:

โ€œI have people knocking on my door regularly saying theyโ€™re readyโ€ฆ and theyโ€™re not even ticking half of the list.โ€

Then she asked me a question I wasnโ€™t expecting:

โ€œDo you respect me? Do you think I make good judgements?โ€

I eagerly responded,

โ€œOh yes, of course I do!โ€

And she replied:

โ€œThen trust my judgement when I sayโ€ฆ you are ready.โ€

That conversation changed something for me. Not overnight confidence. Not a sudden belief that I had it all figured out.

But enough of a shiftโ€ฆ to say yes.

I went into the process. And less than 9 months later, I was told Iโ€™d been successful.

On 1 July 2008, I became a Partner at EY. One of the proudest moments of my life. One that changed the trajectory of my careerโ€ฆ and my life.

The announcement in the Australian Financial Review of my promotion (still hangs on my wall today)

And to thinkโ€ฆ I almost said not now. (And lucky I didn’t, because the next year there was an economic downturn and the number of partners promoted reduced significantly โ€“ but thatโ€™s a story for another day)

So what does this mean for you?

It means, you donโ€™t need to tick every box. And youโ€™re often closer than you think.

Sometimes, all it takes is for someone else:

โˆž    to see it

โˆž    to say it

โˆž    and to challenge you to step into it

And sometimesโ€ฆ itโ€™s just one conversation that makes the difference.

Thatโ€™s why I believe this so strongly: You are often one conversation away.

Why One Conversation Away

This newsletter is about those conversations.

The ones that:

โˆž    nudge you forward

โˆž    shift how you see yourself

โˆž    and open doors you might have otherwise walked past

Because there is something Iโ€™ve noticed over 30+ years of working with talented people. Most arenโ€™t as far away as they think.

โˆž    Theyโ€™re not five promotions away.

โˆž    Theyโ€™re not another degree away.

โˆž    Theyโ€™re not waiting on the โ€œperfect moment.โ€

Often, theyโ€™re just one conversation away.

The conversation they havenโ€™t had. The person they havenโ€™t reached out to. The moment theyโ€™ve been putting off.

So let me leave you with this: Where might you be holding yourself backโ€ฆ even though youโ€™re already more ready than you think?

Or perhaps more importantlyโ€ฆ Who is one person you could have a conversation with โ€“ that might just shift something?

Because you never know which conversation will matter.

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Tracey Waring

Empowering talented people to build more successful careers and live fulfilled lives

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